The language of Feelings
Feelings are something we have and usually are not paid too much attention towards. It is just there. In my work as a therapist, I have learned that feelings follow a roadmap and are not independent and without meaning. These maps make so much meaning...
26 April, 2021
Feelings
Romance and love is rooted in feelings, and what usually happens is that we, after our significant other starts to become valuable to us, start to modify behaviour to act as we think is appropriate. This is one of the roots to our challenges and...
11 April, 2021
Communication in intimate relations
For every couple – communication is important. You can hurt with what you say and you can hurt yourself with what you say or not. The reason communication is so important is because this is a major way we connect. Connecting is how we relate....
14 March, 2021
Power struggle
In relationships there are always one or more power struggles going on. It can be spoken out loud and silent through for example actions like not doing what your partner asks of you. When I say always, it does not mean that it is going...
14 February, 2021
Affairs
Most people talk as if affairs are, a black and white thing. It is not. The easiest thing is to judge and say “if this happens to me, I will go for a clean break up”. My experience as a relationship therapist is showing that...
24 January, 2021
Jealousy
Jealousy is not something we choose. It is not rational either. I am talking in this blog about normal jealousy, not possessiveness. As jealousy is about fear of loss, it can lead to wanting to hold on in a possessive way. Nonetheless the unhealthy possessiveness,...
10 January, 2021
Femininity
In these times where roles are changing and people are playing with sexual expression, both physical and mental, it can be hard to find oneself. How do I express my gender with masculine and feminine traits? In trying to understand what Femininety is and why...
08 November, 2020
Masculinity
Written by a woman you say? What does she know about that? Actually a fair bit. Every person has masculinity and femininity within them. Also I have been fortunate to be trained under Gender Psychology – Creative Couple Work, which has given me much respect...
19 October, 2020
Misunderstandings
This is something we all can relate to in an intimate relationship. Because we have different backgrounds and different understandings, we are bound to see things differently. Even if you think you say things so clearly, and “normal” as possible, we will attach different memories...
27 September, 2020
